This Is What It's Like to Live in L.A.

When you live in L.A., conversations like this happen:

ME

You know that song MoneyGrabber [by Fitz and the Tantrums]?

ROOMMATE

Oh, yeah. I'm friends with Fitz.


Then we looked at his facebook.

Are You Smarter Than a Blog Writer?

This blog desperately needs a face-lift. I don't live at the Y anymore, so the name is inaccurate and misleading. But I haven't been able to come up with an awesome new name. You know, something just as clever as "Living at the YMCA".

Fortunately I have some smart and witty readers. Can you help? I'm looking for something that really gives the blog a brand. Leave your suggestions in the comments. Or facebook/e-mail/text message/in person/smoke signals/send an owl.

"Flowers are so inconsistent!" - The Little Prince

This post has some adult content, so you may want to put the kids to bed before reading.

You'll recall that I've been trying to find work as a film extra. Unsuccessfully.

Sometimes I see posts on craigslist looking for extras. I never wanted to respond to these ads because they usually don't have any details about the gig, and that's suspicious.

But one day I decided to just see. The ad pretty much only had the date of the shoot, and asked you to send your phone number and a non-professional photo. I sent.

Here's the response I got:

Thank you for your submission! Before we go any further, let me tell you: we shoot both mainstream and adult entertainment. Our adult work offers competitive rates at same-day pay. Would you be interested in doing extra work on an adult shoot? You would not be asked to be involved, but it would help if the subject matter doesn't make you uncomfortable. Let me know, I look forward to hearing from you!

Rose

So that explained the lack of details in the ad, but raised a whole new set of questions. Questions like: why do they need extras for porn? Are there a lot of bustling marketplace scenes in porn? Courtroom scenes? Family reunions?

I thought long and hard about my response to Rose. My gut reaction was a resounding no. But then I thought about how fun it would be for the blog. The things I do for you, beloved readers.

Although I was nervous about someone I know spotting me in the background of a threeway at the airport, I decided to tell Rose I would be comfortable doing extra work for an adult shoot.

This was Rose's response:

Awesome! What experience do you have / who have you shot for and what would be your limitations on-camera? Sex, handjobs, blowjobs, solo/mutual masturbation, threesomes, anal, gay sex?

In order to be considered, please submit your full legal name and age along with location, (city and state is all I need!), and your contact info (phone and email).

Also, AND THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT: Would you prefer to be in a gay or straight scene?

Please send me one current full-body nude photo, holding today's date on a post-it or piece of paper!

Also, what tattoos and piercings do you have, if any?

Rose

First of all Rose, you're a big fat liar. What happened to "You would not be asked to be involved"?

No no no, Rose. Your e-mail is making me blush, and I think that disqualifies me for this type of work. This humorous experiment suddenly got way too real. And scary.

Thus ends my correspondence with Rose, and my brief foray into the world of adult entertainment.

Now There's Even More to Hate About Job Interviews

I really don't like situations where I have to come up with something on the spot. I don't like doing improv. I don't like any kind of role-playing.

Take this blog for instance. I spend a ridiculous amount of time on each post trying to give it a spontaneous and off-the-cuff air. I like to have time. I need to be prepared.

I had an interview last week at an assisted living facility to work with seniors who have Alzheimer's and dementia. As part of the interview, I was handed a piece of paper and asked to "take a minute" and compose a letter to the daughter of an imaginary resident ("Mrs. Smith"). The letter was to tell the daughter about what her mother did for Mother's Day.

This must just be to see if I can write coherent sentences, I thought.

"Spelling and grammar doesn't matter," the interviewer said. "We're not looking to see if you can write well."

Well then what the hell are you looking for, I wanted to ask her in an angry voice, but didn't.

Can I go home and brainstorm and come back tomorrow with ten different styles of letters, I wanted to ask her, but didn't.

Dear Daughter of Mrs. Smith,

Your mother spent Mother's Day wondering where you were. It seems like if you were ever going to visit her, Mother's Day would be the day to do it. Not to worry. She won't remember who you are much longer. Abandoned by her children, she no longer has a tether to her life as she knew it - her mind is slipping further and further every day.
At Mrs. Smith's request, I won't be writing you about her daily activities anymore. She considers it an invasion of her privacy.

Sincerely,
Dan, star employee

I think I actually wrote that she had pancakes and sat outside for a while.

Here's another one. Yesterday I interviewed at Bubba Gump, the restaurant chain based on the movie Forrest Gump. It's a great location right on the beach.

It was a group interview, me and two girls. The interview was very short and then we were asked to "take 5 minutes" and come up with a commercial telling people why Bubba Gump is the best place to work.

I swear I almost shot myself. Here's what we came up with. (You have to picture us doing this in the middle of the crowded restaurant with enormous smiles and Vanna White hand gestures.)

GIRL #1

Good food! Good friends! Good fun!

GIRL #2
At Bubba Gump, it's not only a party in your mouth, but a party at your table!

ME
Where going to work is a day at the beach!

GIRL #1
Mama always told me, Life is like a box of chocolates... and this is the piece I chose!

ALL THREE
Run Forrest, Run... to work at Bubba Gump!

The interviewer said we were the best group he had seen.

Read All About It

The job market is in a sorry state. At least it's sorry here in L.A., and maybe it's sorry where you are too, cherished readers.

So I've decided to try to work as a film extra. Oh sorry, they're called background actors now. (Although that name isn't wholly appropriate either, because sometimes they're in the foreground.)

It seemed like a fun L.A. kind of thing to do, and a way to make some rent money. But I guess a lot of other people had the same idea, because I haven't been able to book anything yet.

I registered with a casting agency. To get work I have to call in all the time and listen to recorded messages asking for specific things. Here's one from their facebook page:

Annie is looking for Caucasian men or women for the show "Weeds" working 5/5/11 in the L.A. area who MUST have a small european car (such as a citroen/smart car) or a Vespa (or something similar) If this is you and you are OK to work on Thursday the 5th please call and submit to [phone #]. Thanks!

If I fit what they're looking for, I call the number in the message. They pull up my photo that they have on file and give me a yes or no. If it's yes, they give me another number to call to listen to another recorded message giving me the job details.

This is all hearsay by the way because so far they haven't been looking for anything that sounds like me. Except this one thing--

Late one night there was a message that one of the casting directors was looking for "laughers". She said they often had trouble finding really good laughers, so she was putting together a file of good laughers that they could pull from in the future. Call in and laugh for me, she said, if you have a hearty, spontaneous laugh and you're between the ages of 18 and 40. (Apparently laughs from the over-40 crowd are useless.)

I'd like to mention that I have no idea what this is for. Is this like for people in the studio audience? People on camera laughing? Just to perk up a dull Tuesday night for this casting director? No idea.

But I had to call. Because it's the only thing that I could call in for so far.

I was nervous. This is why I'm not really a performer anymore. Actors have to be willing to make fools of themselves constantly. I don't have the constitution. Too proud.

It was late at night and Roommate was already in bed, so I couldn't do it from my apartment. I didn't even want to do it outside the house. I didn't want my neighbors to witness this shameful deed. But I live in a crowded city, so there's nowhere I could go to be totally alone.

I walked about 5 blocks away from my house. I had to practice first, warm up my voice, get that laugh just right. I kept moving so I wouldn't be laughing like a psychopath outside one person's open window in the middle of the night. And I held my phone to my ear so that all the people I imagined were watching me would think I was having a raucous conversation.

Finally I felt ready to call. This conversation is the quintessential L.A. experience to me.

PHONE
Ring ring. Ring ring.

CASTING DIRECTOR

(answers phone)
Laugh for me.

ME
HA haha hahaha hahahaa ha (about 15 seconds).

Silence.

Dead silence.

Somewhere Candace Bergen drops a pin.

Finally:

ME
...How was that?

CASTING DIRECTOR
Can you go on a little more for me?

ME
Sure. HAHA HAHAhahaa ha --

Dogs are barking. In the distance a baby cries.

ME (CONT'D)
HAhaha hahaah haha ha (about 45 seconds) --

CASTING DIRECTOR
(interrupting)
Okay, who are you?

ME
[Name and agency ID].

CASTING DIRECTOR
Thanks. (hangs up)

I quickly flee that neighborhood, never to return.


But I think I may have made it into the laughers file.

Living at Not-the-YMCA

I wasn't sure I was going to continue. I mean once you move out of the Y, what else is there to say? What else is there to life?

But tonight Roommate convinced me that I do have more to say. My life isn't quite the train wreck that it was two weeks ago (I live in a home now), but signing a 12-month lease with no employment to speak of is its own kind of entertaining disaster.

Stay tuned for posts about:
- the new apartment
- exploring my neighborhood
- the job hunt
- living thrifty
- looking for work as a film extra
- living the dream

As we transition into Phase 2 of the blog I'm making a promise. As long as you keep reading it, I'll keep writing it.

Is This the End?

I didn't want to say anything until it was official, but as of last night I have checked out of the YMCA for good.

This is the sun setting on the Y. It's like a metaphor or something.

I moved into an amazing apartment in West Hollywood. I'm very happy about my new situation, but I was surprised at how sad it made me to leave. Even though it was only for a month, and even though it was a crappy room at the Y, it's unsettling to leave a familiar place and enter that unknown entity - the new home.

But I love my new apartment dearly, and I am just beginning to explore my exciting new neighborhood.

Of course the question on everyone's lips is "What will become of the blog?"

The answer: Wait and see.